Have We Forgotten How to Be Gentlemen?

being a gentleman

When did Men forget to be gentlemen? I know the world is changing and I of course support that men and women are absolutely equal. That said, there is nothing wrong with respecting the good elements of tradition.

It amazes me that men so frequently disregard basic manners. Holding the door, standing when a lady enters the room, why did these traditions die?

Guys, there is nothing wrong with holding the door, helping somebody with their coat.

Moving on from your girlfriends, why can’t we show respect our elders? Recently I interacted with an elderly lady in Trader Joes by offering a helping hand as she battled with her shopping baskets. A smile and a hand of assistance is the simplest thing to give and is always so handsomely received.

Guys, step outside your comfort zone and be a gentlemen.



I wanted to take the time and spotlight a company that truly represents the American Dapper lifestyle. SKINNYFATTIES is a Brooklyn based online tie tailoring company here in New York City. You can send in any tie you already own to get altered to another size or even have one custom made to your liking!


They also have 100% American handmade tie clips made from recycles high quality wood! The founder Joshua Brueckner started the company in 2012 after tailoring his own ties from being sick of his old ones. He started SKINNYFATTIES as the first and currently ONLY tie tailoring company available online.

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With every purchase you make on SKINNYFATTIES, a portion of the profits goes to Career Gear. CG helps build strong families and communities by empowering men who are low-income to overcome barriers and achieve self-sufficiency. If you are ever in need of a unique gift idea, snag a gift card from the guys at SF! It’s fun design will sure impress anyone who receives it.

Gift Cards

Lastly, Joshua was kind enough to provide a special 15% off discount to anyone who uses the code AMERICANDAPPER when they make a purchase any time between now and May 31st!  So get on over to http://www.SKINNYFATTIES.com and order an amazing custom made tie of your own.

– Jamie

Spotlight: The Perfect Day Bag for the Dapper Man


I’ve noticed many men seem to be afraid of sporting a more fashionable bag during the day. You may have a great outfit, but the minute you throw a ratty Jansport bag over your shoulder, it’s basically null and void. I wanted to feature a company that puts a lot of thought and time into the construction of their bags. Coach makes an incredible line of men’s bags and this season it’s featuring the Bleecker Day Tote!


The Bleecker Day Tote can fit everything from a laptop to a weekends worth of essentials. Hand crafted in 3 unique styles, here are some details on this summers must have bag.

  • Leather
  • Inside zippered and snap pockets
  • Interior collar slip pocket for cell phone
  • Custom-clasp closure, fabric lining
  • Handles with 4 3/4″ drop
  • Detachable strap for shoulder or crossbody wear
  • 15 3/4″ (L) x 16 1/4″ (H) x 6″ (W)



– Jamie

Stay Classic with the Wayfarer


I firmly believe that the Ray-Ban Wayfarer is the number one most versatile brand of sunglasses of all time. I purchased a pair of Tortoise shell Wayfarers over 4 years ago and they have been the one pair that go with basically everything in my closet. They frame the face perfectly and just give a classic feel of sophistication and timeless style.

Ray-Bans have been produced since the 1950’s and hit a bit of a revival in the 2000’s. Ray Ban Wayfarers took advantage of new plastics technology early on and was one of the first eyewear companies to switch from metal frames to plastic.


Many celebrities are also seen sporting around the classic frames around Hollywood and New York City. One of my favorite couples Andrew Garfield and Emma Stone, rock them on the streets together all the time. They are reasonably priced at around $150 and are incredibly durable. My personal opinion is to get them in both black and tortoise shell to be able to rock them during all occasions.


So do yourself a favor this season and go out to any Sunglass Hut or Macy’s store and grab yourself a piece of iconic eyewear.

– Jamie


White Shoes and How to Wear Them

One Direction Wax Figures At The Today Show

So many people have told me they are too afraid of wearing white shoes because of the maintenance. Wearing them out once and you come home with scuffs and dirt marks. I once shared this fear and stayed far away from all white shoes. But like most people, my opinion changed. I went out and bought my first pair of all white canvas Converses.


Stars like David Beckham and the boys of One Direction have been seen sporting all white sneakers for some time now and I can agree they look pretty awesome doing so. White sneakers can add a touch of style you didn’t even realize was missing from your outfit. Some people really love to distress their white shoes to give them the “lived in” look, but I am a fan of crisp and clean. You can wear them with suits or with something as simple as a white shirt and dark denim. The versatility of this style must have really has no limits. One trick I’ve learned with my white shoes is to wash them! Throw them in with a load of whites and run on gentle and they will look good as new in no time.


If you decide on white leather or something that isn’t canvas for your white shoe, make sure and give them a good polish at the end of the day. Maintenance and proper care is key, gentleman.



Summer Style Spotlight: Shorts


It’s finally time to let your legs breathe now that we are heading into much warmer spring and summer weather. A lot of men have trouble deciding on the appropriate style and length of shorts that works best for them. This style spotlight will give a few tips on how to make your decision a little easier.


  • DO not be afraid of shorts that hit above the knee
  • DON’T wear capris. They look bad on almost everyone.
  • DO embrace bold prints and floral patterns
  • DON’T wear baggy cargo shorts. You aren’t in high school anymore, gentlemen.
  • DO dress up the shorts with a nice shirt and blazer.
  • DON’T be scared to wear bright colors! When paired well, it can look awesome.
  • DO get pants tailored into shorts. I get bored with denim and pants come summer and take them to get tailored. It’s like getting a brand new piece!




Disney’s Newsies on Broadway: The Original American Dappers


Released as “The News Boys” in the UK, Disney released the movie musical The Newsies in 1992. Flash forward to 2011, Disney Theatrical Productions decided to do a limited run of Newsies at Paper Mill Playhouse in New Jersey before officially opening at Broadways Nederlander Theatre in March of 2012. The success of Newsies: The Musical blew away everyones expectations with ticket sales going through the roof and thus resulted in an open ended run as of today.


Now some may wonder, what’s so fashionable about a bunch of rag tag rascals pushing newspapers in 1899? The boys of newsies inspired a dapper sense of fashion with spotlighting accessories and attention to detail! Everything from vests, hats, light scarves, suspenders and cuffing of pants, the boys of Newsies have influenced street style all over the world.


This look is very simple to achieve with trips Top Man, H&M, Zara, Banana Republic and Aldo. You don’t need to break the bank for the entire ensemble. I’d say the shoes, vests and suspenders are where the focus should be and follow it up with some nice button-ups, socks and classic news boy cap.

Want to be inspired in person? You can get tickets to see Disney’s Newsies: The Musical by clicking here.

Currently running at Broadways Nederlander Theatre