When did Men forget to be gentlemen? I know the world is changing and I of course support that men and women are absolutely equal. That said, there is nothing wrong with respecting the good elements of tradition.
It amazes me that men so frequently disregard basic manners. Holding the door, standing when a lady enters the room, why did these traditions die?
Guys, there is nothing wrong with holding the door, helping somebody with their coat.
Moving on from your girlfriends, why can’t we show respect our elders? Recently I interacted with an elderly lady in Trader Joes by offering a helping hand as she battled with her shopping baskets. A smile and a hand of assistance is the simplest thing to give and is always so handsomely received.
Guys, step outside your comfort zone and be a gentlemen.
One of my favorite things to do is help a friend get ready for something. I had a friend need my advice on his outfit for a job interview that he had the next day and I showed up with a few pairs of shoes and shirts to work some magic. It got me inspired to write some helpful tips for the man who needs some assistance getting ready for a stressful job interview.
1. Neat Hair
2. Shave – This depends on the type of job you are going for. Some places allow it and some don’t. If you chose to keep your facial hair, try and keep the neck clean and shaped.
3. Always wear some type of button up. Seriously, I’m not kidding. It shows that you care and make sure it is either a solid color or a pattern that compliments the outfit.
4. A nice fitted pair of dark wash denim or pressed dress pants. Like I said before, depending on the job and situation, dark wash denim can be totally acceptable.
5. TUCK IN YOUR SHIRT. No excuses.
6. Wear a tie or bow tie. It’s always a great idea.
7. Get a manicure. Jagged and or dirty nails will always be noticed.
8. Wear a nice belt. It’s all in the details.
9. Keep accessories to a minimum. A nice watch is the most you’ll really need.
10. Don’t wear too much cologne. You don’t want to knock someone out.
11. Make sure your shoes are as clean as possible. Don’t forget those wing tips!
I hope these tips help you on your next job interview!
One of the wonderful things I like about living in New York is the benefit we receive from four true seasons each year. From a fashion perspective you have an array of opportunities to show your personal style in different ways. It also allows you to experience the fashion of others as the seasons change.
As winter has arrived, it is vital for every gentleman residing in the North to understand the basic concepts of layering. This is especially true in New York, as we spend much our time outdoors, running between business lunches and cocktail hours, and must plan our attire in advance of the day.
What you choose to wear over your outfit to protect yourself from the weather is as important as what you wear underneath, as you may be wearing a perfectly tailored suit and hide it beneath an ill-fitting jacket or bulky scarf. To avoid this, you must understand how to properly layer your looks to create cohesion no matter the weather. Here are a few rules to follow regarding layering to guide you as the temperatures drop.
You should also note that your top layer is important. Overcoats and jackets are the first thing that people see and they can say a significant amount about your personal style. These are excellent examples of layering successfully.
Key fashion point when wearing a suit, your overcoat MUST be longer than your suit jacket or sports coat.
It is my thought that every man should strive to be a gentleman. Many people in modern society believe that traditions of gentlemanhood have changed over the years, for instance holding the door for a woman, by some, is considered to be demeaning to the fairer sex. While I can certainly understand this thought process, I still feel that good manners and modern etiquette have nothing to do with sex and gender, and being polite and courteous never goes out of style. Here are some traditional rules of etiquette, appended for the modern gentleman:
Opening the door for a woman: When approaching a traditional door it is only polite to hold the door open for a lady and let her pass ahead of you. This is an action that I have never received a negative reaction for. As for the gender neutral point, I often do this for my fellow male also. The frustrating part is when a lady, or gentlemen, accepts the gesture by walking through the door and does not have the manners to offer a thank you! As for the modern revolving door etiquette actually requires a gentlemen to go first to take the burden of pushing the door from the lady (not a commonly known fact).
Holding the door open: If you are exiting, you should hold the door for anyone coming after, regardless of sex, within reason. If several people are exiting, hold the door until there is a break in the tide; you are not a doorman, after all.
Pulling out chairs: It is considered polite to pull out the chair for your companion, especially if you enter a room first. If you are the host, it is polite to pull out a chair regardless of sex. Whistle I agree with this I must say this is one of the traditional forms of etiquette that is changing.
Offering your seat: It is always proper to offer the easiest, and best seat in the room to a handicapped or elderly person. In this day and age it doesn’t hurt to offer your seat to a lady, however, this practice is widely looked upon as sexist. In the context of public transport I tend to always stand to avoid any confusion or portraying you are unwilling to give up your set.
Thank you notes: The delivery of thank you notes has changed drastically over the years from written notes, to emails, to a lack of gratitude entirely. A nice thank you note on monogrammed stationary will always be well-received. If you cannot send a physical note, apologizing for that in your thank you email is the next best thing. I try to send hand written notes whenever I can. Receiving such a personal touch is always accepted with great appreciation. Personally I discovered Cartier stationary a number of years ago and I have been sending their cards ever since. Whilst it is not the cheapest option the impact is worth every cent!
Not every gentleman is born with the knowledge of how to dress for every occasion.
This American style guide is an ideal way to prepare for your chosen event. It is important to not only look smart, you must also feel smart. Looking and feeling dapper sets you up for a successful experience. We will compare this with an English guide in the coming weeks.